Kim Kardashian, Britney Spears and the rest of the Celebrity Gang
I have been getting a lot of questions from readers regarding role models and who is ideal to represent today’s modern desi woman. I would like to address those questions as I feel as if I am approaching celebrity culture from a very different perspective and I would like to share that with all of you.
When I was growing up, there was no Internet. We didn’t have access to people’s personal lives the way we do now. Things were happening back then but no one except immediate family and friends knew about it until some reporter got wind of it.
Now there are countless blogs, online magazines, social media, socialites and reality stars floating around. News flies around the world with the click of a button within two seconds. It is in your face and you can’t just ignore it.
However, I feel that there is a reason everyone is obsessed with celebrity culture and personal lives of celebrities: we are trying to find someone to relate to. Someone to look up to; Someone who is having experiences that parallel our experiences; Someone who can let us know that there is nothing wrong with us when bad things happen to us.
Social Media – Everyone’s a Contact, No one is a Friend
With the expansion of social media, everyone is a contact and no one is a friend. We are moving towards an impersonal society where we just want to improve ourselves and find opportunities that help us grow, rather than limit us. I am sure if you read past blogs, you have heard me mention Kim Kardashian, Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, Nicole Richie and Paris Hilton.
In my eyes, these girls are incredibly beautiful, talented, independent minded and fun loving. Strong willed and independence is what America pushes for and it is our dream to obtain a life for ourselves filled with hope, positive thinking, independence, freedom of thought and a great life style. Those five girls are incredibly brave as well, because they grew up in the start of the internet generation. They were the beginning and the scapegoat for all things negative. Their mistakes were highlighted so that everyone could judge them and have an opinion about them. Their lives were a sacrifice so that we can have someone to bond with.
Kim Kardashian – Finding Love in a Club
Kim Kardashian – how many of us can find love in a club? When desi girls graduate college, the first thing they do is look for a suitable partner. How many desi girls in America know where to look or who to find? They start to do what everyone else does and hang out with their friends at the bars and clubs on the weekend. Whoever they meet is a waste of time or a major disappointment. No one is serious and no one wants to make it.
Do we start blaming ourselves? Absolutely.
Time goes by and women get older, friends start disappearing and they start wondering around on their own. Is there anyone out there? I have yet to hear of a girl who goes out one night and marries a guy she meets in a club. Some people that I know have gotten married through ads or chance meetings but then divorce comes up within a few years because they realize how different they are or that they pressured the guy into marriage.
Kim is human, she got carried away by the hoopla, but the men that she finds are not marriage material. Is she invested too much in her material possessions? Yes, she is. People become very materialistic when they aren’t finding the love and completion that they once craved for. They start providing for themselves excessively.
I see it constantly among peers. It used to be when you would break up, you would stay in bed for weeks, grieve, eat boxes of chocolate, listen to sad music, draw your curtains and be disappointed in life and in God. Is Kim teaching us normal people how to move on and be happy? Yes, she is. She goes to the gym and works out. She leads a healthy lifestyle.
Men use to be providers and people we searched for to take care of us. They used to represent our happiness. That isn’t happening anymore. Women have to be happy without the presence of a man in their life. They are independently achieving success, so why should a guy be able to put a damper on everything they have accomplished?
As a matter of fact, Kim wrote an email to her cousins stating that she has to be happy and that is why divorce was her only option. She carried on with her work plans in Australia. She didn’t stay in bed and grieve her life away. She moved on. If you look at most of the singles population, our lives are not shaping up that much differently from Kim’s. Wouldn’t everyone want to find their soul mate? Yes, they would. Unfortunately for everyone, it has to be in God’s plan. Kim teaches us that it is fun to be single and you can be happy living independently and on your own. Not many girls or women are viewing life like that.
People should definitely be who they are, but if they can get a little guidance from a woman of today, then why not? Also, you have to ask yourself, if a beautiful , rich and successful woman like Kim is having problems attracting a good guy, then maybe it is just how life is working out today.
Britney Spears – After the meltdown
Britney Spears- I love Britney Spears. I am her biggest supporter. I love the fact that after a meltdown that was brought on by the cruelty of the world and a loser ex-husband, she is up on stage putting on grand shows and making awesome pop music. I feel inspired by her story. She can show you that you can recover from a major traumatic experience on your own and come out smelling like a rose.
Millions of people loved her, but no one helped her when the chips were down. She and her family came together and did that on their own. It is hard being so young and raising two boys on your own- and in the public eye. However, she is doing it. She is working hard and doing an amazing job. She also started out young in the business and became an adult without going through the growing up process.
She made mistakes based on her innocence and wanted to experience love, sex and parties. Her childhood was forsaken because she worked so hard to provide us with amazing entertainment and great music. The men in her past didn’t treat her well. Men just used her and sold their story to the tabloids. She travels the world and performs when she is heartbroken, lonely, upset, happy, ecstatic and when she is being attacked for who and what she is. She keeps smiling, living, working and enjoying. We should all take a page out of her book of resiliency.
Christina Aguilera, Nicole Richie, Paris Hilton
Christina Aguilera- I love Christina. I love her story and I love her voice. She struggled to be the ultimate success that she is today. I respect her for it. She met bad people along the way. Those people wanted to stop her from rising to the top. She persevered. She is a true inspiration. She just had a divorce and she stated that she refuses to have her son grow up in a household where both parents don’t get along. I believe in that. Just be happy. Find a life that works for you.
Nicole Richie- I think Nicole is cool. I love her House of Harlow jewelry line. I love how she turned her life around. She went from a paparazzi-loving, hard partying socialite/reality star to a wife and loving mother of two adorable kids. She authored two books and has a high likeability factor right now.
Paris Hilton- I admit, she is hard to like sometimes. However, she doesn’t get too attached and she moves on. She shows us how to move.
Don’t underestimate the power of celebrity and all of its glory. It can teach you something if you let it
xoxo
Monica Marwah
(Monica Marwah is a 30 something single school psychologist who enjoys living life to the fullest. She is taking her experience and showing others how to believe in themselves and love themselves completely. After years of dating and meeting people, she has come into her own. Spirituality has been a foundation for self improvement for her and she is hoping to encourage people to embark upon a spiritual journey at this age.)
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